A Child with Behavioral Needs

This is going to be a honest post from a mom with a child who has special behavioral needs; i'm hoping to bridge the gap of silence amongst parents of children who have special behavior needs.

There is such a prejudice, shame and silence amongst these moms it just isn't right.

We need support, especially us.

Our oldest child has been diagnosed numerous times since he was younger with ADHD and later with childhood migraines.

Now I know what you are thinking already;

"Oh, ADHD"  think...think...

"what is their deal can't they figure out how to be a parent"

"that child just needs this or that..."

"he just needs meds"

"he won't make it through a full day of school"

"they need to watch super nanny read this book or that book"

"he probably eats too much sugar needs to go on this diet or that diet"

"they need to discipline more"

"be more consistent"

"they probably let him watch too much TV, video games ect"

"the looks those are the worse...like we don't see it or get it ourselves"

I could go on...

The judgement we get from others and lack of support is just a bummer.

We wouldn't be the parents we are today if it weren't for all the things God has taught us from our oldest.

He is SO intelligent, funny, lively and frankly although it's rough our life would be so boring without him, not to mention we are more humble, forgiving, understanding and sensitive to others.

We have been through so much and continue to go through a lot; day by day we trust the Lord and depend on him for the love we need to raise or kids.

Three weeks in a row during good days our son came down with a bad headache, laid down and within the next couple of hours threw up everything he had eaten in the last couple of days.

We've had brain scans, MRI's, allergies tested, Dr after Dr and no one can explain to us why our son keeps throwing up off and on.

We are on the brink of "Lord willing" getting approval for a neuro/behavioral pediatrician to help us on a regular basis.  Whew what a blessing that would be, be praying.

It's a journey and God has allowed Dylan to be our son for a reason, he is a "gift" a "blessing".

We depend on God to carry us through each day and give us wisdom.

It is not easy; some days I just want to touch him and magically make him take it down a notch.
As a parent of a child with ADHD you just want to help in some way to have self-control, calm down, see the social rules for what they are and just obey because it is right. 

My desire through this post is to encourage other moms with a child with behavioral needs. 

You are not alone.
It is hard.
Press on God has a plan and a purpose for your child as well as ours.